The Power of Love

How would you describe what love feels like? Is is a warm fuzzy feeling? A constant happiness? Whatever your description of love is, the emotions around it are typically quite positive. When I think of love, pictures of smiling faces, the color red and warmth come into my mind along with an overwhelming feeling of comfort and contentment. If I were to picture my life without the feeling of love, I think a vital natural human component would be missing. The topic of love and its importance within the life of all human beings, especially the life of a child, is presented in Lois Lowry's The Giver. Oblivious to the notion of love until he experiences it for the first time, Jonas instantly connects with his feelings as he "liked the feeling of love" and felt "a little more complete" (126). Jonas' entire world is shifted upside down, particularly his relationship with his family, after becoming aware of the concept of love.

I recognize that not all children may be loved by their parents but Lowry argues that love from a parent is not the only form of love that a child can learn from and model off of. Readers follow Jonas through his questioning of his parents' love for him and their refusal to answer a concept that does not qualify as "precise language" (127). Now aware of what love feels like and how it should be exemplified in a family dynamic, Jonas is crushed by his parents response. I think most people would agree that the thought of having a parent(s) refuse to express their love for you is devestating. It is after this conversation that Jonas realizes he is not part of a 'loving' family. Desperately searching for the love he so badly wants to feel and give to others, Jonas forms a very strong relationship with Gabe.

It is through his relationship with Gabe that Jonas understands what love is and the lengths that people will go to for those that they love. Lowry's portrayal of a family love that does not fit a mold of the cookie cutter family (mom, dad, son, daughter) is similar to that of Park's in A Single Shard. Tree Ear learns, understands and demonstrates true family love through his relationship with Crane Man. Park and Lowry both make the point that to know and understand love only takes one person. It does not have to be a parent or family member but someone that an individual feels that warm fuzzy feeling or constant happiness aroused within themselves. In choosing to release all of the memories into the community, Jonas represents one of my favorite quotes - "The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in."